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Concept Set A: Swipe proposals

Draft catalogue for the existing swipe interaction. A match represents both partners opting into the stated outcome. partner_text is the wording delivered to the other partner; null denotes a symmetric proposition.

Asymmetric swipe concepts

#	Intensity	Text	Partner text	Matched outcome
1	2	Send your partner a message describing the kind of attention you would love later.	Receive a message from your partner describing the kind of attention they would love later.	One partner has invited the other to create a specific kind of private attention.
2	2	Ask your partner to choose one compliment you should hear in a more intimate setting.	Choose one compliment your partner should hear in a more intimate setting.	One partner wants to give a targeted confidence-building compliment and the other wants to receive it.
3	2	Tell your partner one private thought that makes you feel closer to them.	Hear one private thought from your partner that makes them feel closer to you.	One partner is ready to share a personal desire for connection and the other is open to receiving it.
4	2	Ask your partner to give you a private instruction in a message.	Give your partner a private instruction in a message.	One partner wants to follow a playful instruction and the other wants to set it.
5	3	Describe a private scenario you would like your partner to set up for you.	Set up a private scenario your partner describes wanting.	One partner wants to describe a desired experience and the other wants to bring it to life.
6	3	Ask your partner to tell you what they find hardest to resist about you.	Tell your partner what you find hardest to resist about them.	One partner wants a direct expression of desire and the other wants to give it.
7	3	Invite your partner to send you a voice note that builds anticipation.	Send your partner a voice note that builds anticipation.	One partner wants to be teased by voice and the other wants to create that anticipation.
8	4	Ask your partner to tell you one private wish they want you to consider.	Tell your partner one private wish you want them to consider.	One partner is open to receiving a direct private wish and the other is ready to name one.
9	2	Let your partner choose a small signal that means they want your attention.	Choose a small signal that tells your partner you want their attention.	One partner wants to recognise a private invitation and the other wants to create one.
10	2	Ask your partner to plan the first few minutes of a private date.	Plan the first few minutes of a private date for your partner.	One partner wants to arrive without knowing the opening and the other wants to create it.
11	3	Let your partner decide when you are allowed to open a private surprise.	Decide when your partner is allowed to open a private surprise.	One partner wants delayed anticipation and the other wants to control the reveal.
12	3	Wait for your partner to give you the cue to begin a private plan.	Give your partner the cue to begin a private plan.	One partner wants to wait for permission and the other wants to choose the moment.
13	3	Ask your partner to create a private clue trail leading to what they want.	Create a private clue trail leading to what you want from your partner.	One partner wants to follow an intimate trail of hints and the other wants to design it.
14	3	Let your partner choose one thing to postpone to make the build-up longer.	Choose one thing to postpone to make the build-up longer for your partner.	One partner wants a slower build-up and the other wants to decide what is held back.
15	4	Ask your partner to plan a private surprise within limits you agree first.	Plan a private surprise for your partner within limits you agree first.	One partner wants a contained surprise and the other wants to lead it safely.
16	4	Let your partner choose the order of a private experience without telling you.	Choose the order of a private experience without telling your partner.	One partner wants uncertainty within an agreed experience and the other wants to choreograph it.
17	2	Choose what your partner wears for a private date.	Let your partner choose what you wear for a private date.	One partner wants to style the moment and the other wants to be chosen for.
18	2	Choose the music that sets the mood for your private time together.	Let your partner choose the music that sets the mood for your private time together.	One partner wants to set the atmosphere and the other wants to enter it.
19	3	Give your partner three private options and choose which one they follow.	Let your partner give you three private options and choose which one you follow.	One partner wants to offer controlled choices and the other wants to accept a selected direction.
20	3	Plan a private experience where your partner follows your pace.	Follow your partner’s pace during a private experience they plan.	One partner wants to guide the rhythm and the other wants to be guided.
21	3	Choose the first form of affection you give your partner in private.	Let your partner choose the first form of affection they give you in private.	One partner wants to initiate deliberately and the other wants to receive an intentional opening.
22	4	Decide the private role you want your partner to play for you.	Play the private role your partner chooses for you.	One partner wants to direct a role-based encounter and the other wants to inhabit the chosen role.
23	4	Set the rules for a private game your partner agrees to play.	Play a private game using rules your partner sets.	One partner wants to set a consensual frame and the other wants to play within it.
24	4	Choose when your partner may take the next step in a private encounter.	Let your partner choose when you may take the next step in a private encounter.	One partner wants to control pacing and the other wants to receive a clear cue.
25	2	Let your partner choose the private setting where you spend time together.	Choose the private setting where you spend time with your partner.	One partner wants to be led into a setting and the other wants to choose it.
26	2	Follow a private date plan your partner creates without seeing it first.	Create a private date plan for your partner without showing it first.	One partner wants a planned surprise and the other wants to arrange it.
27	3	Let your partner decide how slowly you take a private moment together.	Decide how slowly you take a private moment together with your partner.	One partner wants to surrender the pace and the other wants to set it.
28	3	Follow one private instruction from your partner without negotiating the details first.	Give your partner one private instruction without negotiating the details first.	One partner wants to follow a simple direction and the other wants to give one.
29	3	Let your partner choose the kind of attention you receive first.	Choose the kind of attention your partner receives first.	One partner wants to receive a chosen form of attention and the other wants to give it.
30	4	Let your partner decide the sequence of an agreed private experience.	Decide the sequence of an agreed private experience for your partner.	One partner wants to follow an agreed sequence and the other wants to lead it.
31	4	Follow a private role your partner sets after discussing your limits.	Set a private role for your partner after discussing their limits.	One partner wants to follow a defined role and the other wants to set it within agreed limits.
32	2	Choose one element of a private date while your partner chooses the other.	Choose one element of a private date while your partner chooses the other.	Both partners want to co-create a private date with equal input.
33	2	Take turns choosing how you show affection during a private evening.	Take turns choosing how you show affection during a private evening.	Both partners want alternating opportunities to initiate affection.
34	3	Create a private list of three ideas and let your partner pick one for you.	Create a private list of three ideas and let your partner pick one for you.	Both partners want to offer choices and select an experience for each other.
35	3	Agree that each of you gets one turn to direct part of a private experience.	Agree that each of you gets one turn to direct part of a private experience.	Both partners want shared leadership with clear turns.
36	3	Choose a private challenge for your partner and accept one from them.	Choose a private challenge for your partner and accept one from them.	Both partners want to exchange playful, consensual challenges.
37	4	Take turns naming one thing you want and one thing you are willing to give.	Take turns naming one thing you want and one thing you are willing to give.	Both partners want to negotiate desire through reciprocal offers.
38	4	Agree that either partner can change the direction of a private experience once.	Agree that either partner can change the direction of a private experience once.	Both partners want shared control and permission to redirect the experience.
39	2	Ask your partner to name the kind of reassurance they want before trying something new.	Tell your partner the kind of reassurance you want before trying something new.	One partner wants to offer reassurance and the other wants to name what helps.
40	2	Choose a private check-in phrase your partner can use with you.	Use a private check-in phrase your partner chooses for you.	One partner wants to establish a check-in and the other wants to use it.
41	3	Tell your partner one boundary that helps you relax during private exploration.	Hear one boundary from your partner that helps them relax during private exploration.	One partner wants to state a boundary and the other is open to receiving it.
42	3	Ask your partner to choose a simple signal for slowing down.	Choose a simple signal for slowing down with your partner.	One partner wants a clear slowing-down signal and the other wants to define it.
43	3	Invite your partner to tell you what would make a new idea feel safer.	Tell your partner what would make a new idea feel safer for you.	One partner wants to adapt to the other’s needs and the other wants to express them.
44	4	Ask your partner to set one firm limit before you lead a private experience.	Set one firm limit before your partner leads a private experience.	One partner wants to lead only with a clear limit and the other wants to set it.
45	4	Ask your partner to tell you what would make them stop a private experience.	Tell your partner what would make you stop a private experience.	One partner wants clarity about stopping conditions and the other wants to define them.
46	2	Ask your partner to choose how they would like to reconnect after private time.	Choose how you would like to reconnect with your partner after private time.	One partner wants to provide the preferred form of reconnection and the other wants to choose it.
47	2	Tell your partner one thing they could say that would make you feel especially appreciated afterwards.	Hear one thing you could say that would make your partner feel especially appreciated afterwards.	One partner wants to name an affirming phrase and the other wants to offer it.
48	3	Let your partner choose whether you stay close, talk, or have quiet space after an intimate moment.	Choose whether you stay close, talk, or have quiet space after an intimate moment with your partner.	One partner wants the other to decide the reconnection style and the other wants to choose it.
49	3	Ask your partner to tell you what kind of comfort helps them feel grounded afterwards.	Tell your partner what kind of comfort helps you feel grounded afterwards.	One partner wants to provide grounding comfort and the other wants to describe it.
50	3	Give your partner a chance to tell you what they liked most after private exploration.	Tell your partner what you liked most after private exploration.	One partner wants feedback and the other wants to share positive detail.
51	4	Ask your partner to choose one way you can make them feel cared for after an intense private experience.	Choose one way your partner can make you feel cared for after an intense private experience.	One partner wants to provide deliberate care and the other wants to specify it.
52	4	Tell your partner what you need from them if a private experience leaves you feeling exposed.	Hear what your partner needs if a private experience leaves them feeling exposed.	One partner wants to name a vulnerability need and the other wants to meet it.
53	2	Let your partner choose one part of you to compliment slowly and sincerely.	Choose one part of your partner to compliment slowly and sincerely.	One partner wants to receive focused admiration and the other wants to give it.
54	2	Ask your partner to give you their full attention while you share what feels romantic to you.	Give your partner your full attention while they share what feels romantic to them.	One partner wants to be heard about romance and the other wants to listen attentively.
55	3	Receive a slow, uninterrupted moment of affection chosen by your partner.	Give your partner a slow, uninterrupted moment of affection you choose.	One partner wants to receive focused affection and the other wants to choose how to give it.
56	3	Give your partner the kind of private attention they ask for without asking for anything back first.	Receive the kind of private attention you ask for without giving anything back first.	One partner wants to give without immediate reciprocity and the other wants to receive freely.
57	3	Let your partner choose how they want you to focus on them during private time.	Choose how you want your partner to focus on you during private time.	One partner wants to direct the attention they receive and the other wants to follow that direction.
58	4	Ask your partner to give you their full focus while you set the pace.	Give your partner your full focus while they set the pace.	One partner wants to lead the pace while receiving undivided attention from the other.
59	4	Let your partner ask for one kind of private attention you will focus on giving.	Ask your partner for one kind of private attention they will focus on giving.	One partner wants to fulfil a focused request and the other wants to make one.
60	4	Choose how you want your partner to make you feel desired in private.	Make your partner feel desired in private in the way they choose.	One partner wants to name a desired experience and the other wants to deliver it.

Symmetric swipe proposals

#	Intensity	Text	Partner text	Matched outcome
1	2	Exchange a private message naming one thing you find irresistible about each other.	null	Both partners agree to trade direct expressions of attraction.
2	2	Give each other one compliment that feels more personal than usual.	null	Both partners want a more intimate exchange of appreciation.
3	3	Send each other a voice note that sets a private mood.	null	Both partners agree to create anticipation through voice.
4	4	Share one private wish each and discuss what would make it feel exciting and safe.	null	Both partners agree to reveal a private wish and discuss its boundaries.
5	2	Plan a private surprise for each other using only a few clues.	null	Both partners agree to build anticipation through limited information.
6	3	Agree on a private signal that starts an anticipated experience.	null	Both partners want a mutual cue that begins their planned moment.
7	3	Leave each other one private hint about something you want to try together.	null	Both partners agree to exchange hints before discussing an idea.
8	4	Plan a private experience where neither of you knows the full sequence beforehand.	null	Both partners want surprise while retaining an agreed framework.
9	2	Take turns planning a private date where the other person only knows the starting point.	null	Both partners agree to alternate between leading and being surprised.
10	3	Take turns giving one private instruction and following one.	null	Both partners want to alternate consensual direction and follow-through.
11	3	Choose a private role for each other and agree whether to swap halfway through.	null	Both partners want a role-based experience with an optional switch.
12	4	Take turns setting the pace during an agreed private experience.	null	Both partners agree to hand leadership back and forth.
13	2	Each choose one part of a private date and combine the plans.	null	Both partners want to build a shared private date.
14	3	Make a private list of three ideas each and choose one from the other person’s list.	null	Both partners agree to select a mutually desired new idea.
15	3	Use a coin toss to decide who leads the first part of your private time together.	null	Both partners want a playful, equal way to assign the opening lead.
16	4	Agree that either person can pause, redirect, or end a private experience without explanation.	null	Both partners establish equal control over continuation and change.
17	2	Choose a simple phrase that means you want more reassurance.	null	Both partners agree on a shared reassurance signal.
18	3	Name one thing that helps you feel secure when trying something unfamiliar.	null	Both partners agree to share and honour their comfort needs.
19	3	Agree on a signal that means slow down and a signal that means stop.	null	Both partners establish clear ways to adjust or end an experience.
20	4	Discuss one private boundary you want honoured before exploring a more intense idea.	null	Both partners agree to state a firm limit before escalating.
21	2	Tell each other how you most like to reconnect after a private date.	null	Both partners agree to share their preferred reconnection style.
22	3	Set aside time to tell each other what felt especially good about a private experience.	null	Both partners agree to exchange affirming feedback.
23	3	Choose a shared ritual that helps you feel close after intimate time.	null	Both partners want a repeatable ritual of reconnection.
24	4	Agree to check in with each other after trying something that feels emotionally intense.	null	Both partners commit to care and reflection after deeper exploration.
25	2	Take turns receiving five uninterrupted minutes of affectionate attention.	null	Both partners agree to give and receive undivided affection.
26	3	Take turns asking for the kind of private attention you most want.	null	Both partners agree to voice a specific desire and respond to it.
27	3	Give each other a turn where one person only receives and the other only gives attention.	null	Both partners want reciprocal focused giving and receiving.
28	4	Tell each other one way you want to feel desired, then make space for both requests.	null	Both partners agree to make each other feel desired in individually meaningful ways.
29	4	Take turns creating a private experience centred entirely on the other person’s enjoyment.	null	Both partners want to alternate between giving undivided attention and receiving it.
30	4	Agree to ask directly for what you want and answer honestly about what you can give.	null	Both partners agree to a direct, consent-led exchange of desire.